12 yr old boys.....advice please.

Does anyone have any at home that are simply horrible and out of control, I am at a loss what to do with mine, he refuses point blank to do as he is told. In fact he goes out of his way to do the opposite.. he takes great pleasure in battering his younger disabled sister, his foul mouth is getting everyone down.

Today he came home from school and as usual thought it would be fun to bang his drumsticks off his sisters head, this got him a dig from her which in turn ended with him calling her a cnut which rendered me speechless as i then had my innocent daughter repeat this word ( that she has no clue is naughty) to me as she was telling tales.

Is this something he will grow out of or is he simply just a little sh!t?....

erm just smack him!

yep smack him i was less cheeky after getting a smack for been a little ****

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Originally Posted by General Baxter

erm just smack him!

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+1

i use to get that if i was a little sh1t...

and if he goes to his teacher or child line, smack him harder,

did a smack do you any harm, no, did it do me any harm no, i might have to a little arroused, but thats another story lol

just ****ing beat the living **** out of him lol

Smacking doesnt work,when i was 12 i was hitting my dad back.By 14 i was fighting blokes so i dont think smacking works at all lol
I would take xbox/ps3 or whatever off him.Just make life a misery for bad behaviour and then reward for good.
I turned into a proper little bastad me,in the cells every other week from 14-19 and i can see now where my rents went wrong with me.
So i wont let the same happen to my kids.

when i was 12 i was larger/taller then my mother, she just used crowbars then

God i'd be locked up if anyone knew how much he does get smacked, he comes back with..." is that the best you can do?".... or " is that meant to hurt?"
Smacking him really does not bother him. He is slowly turning into a little chav, with no morals, and not a care in the world, he thinks he can do exactly as he pleases, and anyone who gets in his way just gets crap.

If this is just a phase he's going through then i can maybe put up with it for a bit longer... although after 2 years it does get frustrating.

i'm afraid he needs some ritual public humiliation, being a teenager is cobblers, it really isn't anything to do with hormones etc... before james dean etc, there was no such thing as being a teenager, there were children & there were adults. that was it...

my middle daughter was sat at the dinner table one night with her best friend & laughingly announced that her dinner smelled like dog poo, which probably sounded really funny in the school canteen. within 30 seconds she was carried upstairs & put into bed for the rest of the night, and i took her friend home after she had eaten her dinner.... my daughter has never done anything like that again

use weapons then

lock it in the shed for a few hours, it will calm down, treat it like a pet lol

Take everything off him, his playstation if he has one, bike if he has one, that sort of thing, ground him and dont allow him tv or pocket money or anything like that, until he decides to show some respect leave him in his room with fook all!

Oh dear. It seems to be a day for people saying about their boys. A friend was telling me about how she keeps catching her 10 year old watching stuff he shouldn't online..and showing his little sister.

My younger brother used to be the same, although he sort of had a reason as he's autistic and has ADD, my dad used to wallop him and then kick him out of the house for a few hours with nowhere to go. Would only ever work for a few days though and then he'd be back to normal.

Also agree with Spud and Mowgli. Take everything away from him, don't allow him any treats and publically humiliate him...always worked with me when I was being a little terror lol

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Originally Posted by Miss Stig

God i'd be locked up if anyone knew how much he does get smacked, he comes back with..." is that the best you can do?".... or " is that meant to hurt?"
Smacking him really does not bother him. He is slowly turning into a little chav, with no morals, and not a care in the world, he thinks he can do exactly as he pleases, and anyone who gets in his way just gets crap.

If this is just a phase he's going through then i can maybe put up with it for a bit longer... although after 2 years it does get frustrating.

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Exactly my point,i did the same,its lack of respect.
Try to divert his attention from being a sh1tehawk and to put his energies into summat more constructive like rebuilding/restoring cars or field bikes etc.
I think the next generation is going to be worse as they have all grown up on computer games and know nothing about real life or socialising without a computer

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Originally Posted by General Baxter

did a smack do you any harm, lol

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i now have broken nose for try to fight back ps was my bro that did it not me dad. my bro was in charge of me for the week and was telling me off. i tryed swinging back at him then found out i had a very bloody nose a few seconds later and i was sat on me back side lol

so i only have 23 weeks and 12 years till my become a little cheeky fcuker lol

oh i remember them days spud, dad walked in, what you done now, 'snip' the plug on the tv lol

a good hard slap, en locking him in his room without a phone, and take out the fuse for upstairs.

you get really bored after 3 hours without lights or a tv, i can tell you that.

do you give him 'pocket' money for doing things around the house ?

do you want me to come and sort him out, iv allready spend a night in a cell, for decking a 12year old for keying my car lol

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Originally Posted by General Baxter

do you give him 'pocket' money for doing things around the house ?

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Lol yeah righto, from what i gather most kids/teens these days expect 'pocket money' for fook all and just take that you should get it no matter what:eek:

i remember hearing friends dads shouting at them "Im gonna tek mar fockin belt off in a minute sunshine and tan yer ar5e" lol
I reckon you would get in serious bother for saying that nowadays lol

i was launched down the stairs once for being a little sh1t.i must of bounced well as im ok and never pissed about since and that was from my mum...

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Originally Posted by Spudly

Lol yeah righto, from what i gather most kids/teens these days expect 'pocket money' for fook all and just take that you should get it no matter what:eek:

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Admittedly I was exactly the same. I would right kick off if I had no money and I expected to get bought stuff and given money without really doing anything to earn it. My nan soon put me right though lol I remember one christmas i'd done nothing but cause trouble so she grabbed me and all the presents she'd bought me, marched me to the shops and made me watch her give them back...I ended up with an electric blanket that year which was made clear was NOT a present lol

kids have no respect these days.

up here there is a place you can take your unrilly child to, its like a borstol ( sp ) its not nice but it gives you rest and may teach him a little respect for what he has at home,

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Originally Posted by Ernie

kids have no respect these days.

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Agreed! (I feel old lol) I'm hoping baby Burgo will grow up a decent amount of respect and manners.

How about some good ol counciling for Him. My brother is 7 and he has a go at my mum all the time really hypo child he has been counciling for the last 4 months and is gradually becoming his old loving self again. I wouldn't have thought physical contact is the best way because it just angers him more by the sounds of thing. Well if you get hit round the chops, i bet you don't exactly hug the person who done it.

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Originally Posted by Spudly

Lol yeah righto, from what i gather most kids/teens these days expect 'pocket money' for fook all and just take that you should get it no matter what:eek:

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i had to wash 2 cars, wash a 14ft caravan, take the rubish out every day, all for £5 a week :wtf:

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Originally Posted by Tanya.

Agreed! (I feel old lol) I'm hoping baby Burgo will grow up a decent amount of respect and manners.

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Thats how i want my kids to be.
Although i think growing up in a far better area than i did they will have a better chance than i did

Its amazing how much we miss things when they are gone. with my eldest daughter who is almost 11 I remove things of great importance and play tic for tac which works, but then i have what i call the fathers fear. My missus will spend hours argueing with her, i just say 2 words and its sorted in a flash, if i'm really lazy i just raise my bum out of the chair and they leg it.

I suppose its easier for the likes of me and mowgli as i to will just grab her and carry her to bed, which is a true shock to the system when they are that age. They remember who's boss and that they WILL NOT win

humiliation does work great. mine kicks off if i decide to treat them and go to the shops with them. fighting and squabling all the time. i just mosy across the shop to the far side, find a small bra and shout across to see if its the one she wants. after explaining thats what its like with her misbehaving she is the best child ever, and the youngest is always taking notes lol.

http://www.addamsfamily.com/addams/what.jpg

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Originally Posted by Dan

i just raise my bum out of the chair and they leg it..

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so does everyone else lol

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Originally Posted by General Baxter

http://www.addamsfamily.com/addams/what.jpg

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lol

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Originally Posted by Black Stig

Well if you get hit round the chops you i bet you don't exactly hug the person who done it.

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No but it makes you think twice about being a little cnut again!!


I used to get, pants down and a massive slap on the back of the thigh or the bum, my dad is a big guy and has massive hands and when he gave you a smack my god you knew about it, then was sent up to my room to sit by myself/cry!

I only ever remember being smacked properly a handful of times as i soon figured out i didnt want another one of those, after a while it was just the threat of being 'smacked so hard you wont sit down for a week' that made me/us behave!

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Originally Posted by Spudly

I used to get, pants down and a massive slap on the back of the thigh or the bum, my dad is a big guy and has massive hands and when he gave you a smack my god you knew about it,

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stop it spud, im getting all excited lol

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Originally Posted by Spudly

No but it makes you think twice about being a little cnut again!!


I used to get, pants down and a massive slap on the back of the thigh or the bum

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what had you done here then???
http://i11.photobucket.com/albums/a1...3/IMG0020A.jpg


lol lol lol

looks like he needs big hands lol

Ffs, how did i know youd have to comment on that, you know im certain you want to join Tom and Asa's club:p

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Originally Posted by Andy

Thats how i want my kids to be.
Although i think growing up in a far better area than i did they will have a better chance than i did

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I'm (in a way) quite lucky that i've never had my parents there for me and they never taught me respect or anything like that as I grew up. I was allowed to do as I pleased when I pleased. They've been quite good role models as they've shown me exactly how I don't want to be and won't be. I know every new parent starts out with good intentions but I genuinely do hope we manage to raise him to grow up with some respect and consideration and to be a decent lad:)

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Originally Posted by Spudly

I used to get, pants down and a massive slap on the back of the thigh or the bum

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Elsie is just as bad lol

lmao, spudly put it back lol

you know that photo will follow you for ever lol

http://i11.photobucket.com/albums/a1...3/IMG0020A.jpg