Perhaps you could email channel 4 and get super nanny round.............
(this is meant in jest!)
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Perhaps you could email channel 4 and get super nanny round.............
(this is meant in jest!)
i was a complete and utter cnut to my mum when she and my dad got a divorce, always fighting with my brothers (i even pushed one of them into a fire) etc etc, but i grew out of it and now according to my mum im 'the perfect son' lol
i must say when i was young (probably below ten) my mum used to smack us with a slipper, after a while she couldnt hit us hard enough. then it was wait until your father comes home. and the slipper always hurt from him.
i agree with removing EVERY thing of pleasure from him, PC, xbox/ps3, tv, anything which he will enjoy.
also regulate how much money he has. dont just give him a fiver if he wants some sweets, do you think he buys sweets with it!
and also ground him. i knew if i was naughty in the house, and got grounded, i couldnt go out of the house and be naughty. it might also be some of the people he is socializing with that is making him a brat.
just make his life a living hell.
adht.imo:)
so 90% of kids ages 5 to 18 have this aswell, its all a load of bollox, oh my kids got a gob on him, he must have adht, like ****,Quote:
Originally Posted by 16v Nova Kev
take away all the sugar, sweats and all the E numbers
eg me on cola lol
First things first, let's address his attire. I take it you're still buying his clothes? If so, stop buying him clothes that make him look like a chav and get him a dashing outfit from the likes of Barbour, like this fine young gentleman
http://www.lil-miss.com/wp-content/u...l-2520-org.gif
I'm sure the merits of the wax jacket's weatherproof properties would be lost on his 'crew' and he'll be outcast.
Seriously though, my brother's and I were all given the same up-bringing, except my elder brother and I went to a private school and my little brother refused and went to a state school. The youngest was a **** and my older brother and I were angels :thumb:I think the company that you keep at that age has a serious effect on the individual. My younger brother is fine now, but back then he was unbearable.
Definitely take everything off him and let him have it for a few hours etc for good behaviour. I don't think slapping the smile off his face is the way to go at his age either, as it's just conditioning him to take a slap, and may lead to much more fighting at home and outside / school.
Best of luck to you though, my cousin was exactly the same from the age of about 5. 13 years later and he doesn't have a job and still behaves the same. He got beat senseless for being a c0ck by his father and now there is nothing to frighten him as he has taken the worst of what his parents can give.
Also explain to him that Rapping isn't all about crotch grabbing and swearing. Take Mr B for example
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6t28COxEp2k
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xT2iP5Si-Ho
This is what i'm afraid of, he has no interest in school, and i really believe he'll end up in trouble.Quote:
Originally Posted by steviegsi
Hello It's Kelbelle on Martin's account.
I work in a school for children with learning disabilities and behavioural problems.
Smacking doesn't work, all it does is teach the child that violence is how you resolve a situation.
I know it's the hardest thing in the world and by this point will be difficult to do but the number one rule is to NEVER let him see that he has made you cross. Change your tone of voice to show him what he is doing is wrong but don't shout because he is looking for a reaction from you and you shouting at him achieves that.
You say that taking things away from him and not giving him his pocket money makes him kick off. Well unfortunately you need to fight the battle to win the war.
We use a choice system at our school that seems to work and gives the child the perception of control over their situation.
Example: I ask a child to come and do some work with me and they refuse. I tell them they have two choices. They can either come and do the work with me and then choose a fun activity as a reward OR they can go and sit in time out for 5 minutes and then do the work with me anyway. If needs be, I give them a one minute timer to decide and if they don't choose I choose the negative choice for them
So...
If you want him to do a chore, say washing up, and he refuses you give him two choices. He can do the washing up and you'll give him his pocket money or he can refuse and not have his pocket money. AND FOLLOW THROUGH. If he doesn't do the washing up, he doesn't get his pocket money even if he smashes the whole house up in a tantrum.