any news stan thinking of u both fella
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any news stan thinking of u both fella
Cheers folks.
No news really. She's much the same. Not getting any worse though.
Was up yesterday and the nurse that was looking after her at the time had straightened Rach's hair 'cause she knew i was coming up. Which was really nice. She was very awake and was just lying there with her eyes open, looking at me. Didnt want her to see me cry so i had to turn away at one point.
Hopefully 2009 will bring good news.....
indeed, its amazing to read the full thread, and see how far you both have come. i hope to see you both at pv matey! all the best rob and family!
Happy New year Stan mate. Lets hope it brings all you and the lass need. :thumb:
Just to let you all know, there is no news.
I havent went mad and lost this site, yet.
Still going up to see her every 2nd day and phoning every day.
Hang in there dude. Hope theres some more positive news for you soon :thumb:
aww i hope she gets better mate
That'l be 17 weeks on Saturday coming.
Pretty out of this world to be honest.
Next big day will be Valentines. I know its a con anyway but still.......
If she's not much better by Valentine's Day, I've got a great idea for you :)
Just go somewhere quite and secluded and light one of these fire lanterns. It flies off into the air like a hot air baloon and goes for miles until it's all burnt. You can write on it first, a wish or all the things you like/ love about her. Then let it fly off up into the sky :)
http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B...pf_rd_i=468294
My friend had the plain ones, she gave her three children one each and told them to make a wish for New Year. The lad asked for a box of chocolates so she put a box of chocolates on his bed in the morning, the little girl asked for a horse and wonderedf why there wasn't one on her bed in the morning lol I don't think a piece of paper with 'I.O.U a horse riding lesson' means much to a three year old LMAO
I hope she continues to improve, Best wishes x
That is a really nice idea.
Just hope that she can be there to see it......
I know you said you turned away cos you didn't want her to see you distressed and I can understand why - its a bloke thing! But I reckon that maybe she should see you upset if thats how you are feeling. It might help stimulate her out of the coma?
Have you any ideas about trying favourite music etc to help her or is that stuff not worth trying?
Praying she wakes for V day dude
What a nice thought, 2 devoted lovers sharing time after such a depart :)
keep in there bud,
she will be matey, we all do.:thumb:Quote:
Originally Posted by stan_the_man2k4
Any progress mate? :)
Nothing major. Yesterday was 4 months that she's been in a coma.
She seems to be a bit better every time i go see her. She seems to stir more when i speak to her and touch her. Still very surreal.
One thing she has started doing is holding her breath, which worrys me. It sets off an alarm and its all a bit weird really.
I maybe dont notice some of the improvement as i see her quite often.
Thats upsetting, hope she gets better soon man :)
i hope she gets well soon matey you just hold in there.
keep going man, you have done it for 4 months and im sure you coudl do it for another 4.
absolute legend:)
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Originally Posted by stan_the_man2k4
Its quite possible that she's doing this as a way to get attention and to let people know she is there, she is able to see and hear but that she just cant communicate, they are all good signs and indeed signs of progress at least mate.
Any ideas for a Valentines present for Rach if she is still in a coma?
'Bizarre predicament of the week'
her favourite perfume? the smell will maybe trigger something? or a cd of her favourie music?
Thats a brilliant idea is that.:thumb:Quote:
Originally Posted by slothsport1
Well, I already mentioned the lantern. Not exactly a present for her but you can shower her with gifts when she wakes up properly.
christ fella thats a hard one get her a card with an iou inside for anything she could want agree with others something she can smell touch smell or hear the family and me check your posts every day keep your chin up fella
+rep for sloth, the perfume is probs the best idea, a spray once everytime you see her. just a ncie bunch of flowers, roses maybe. even tho she cant see them its the thought that can count.
Stan,Quote:
Originally Posted by stan_the_man2k4
I recently got to speak to a friend who had been through surgery (and the anaestesia (sp?) that goes with it. After surgery was completed, she was sent to recovery as with all regular patients. She then wouldn't wake up, as if she slipped into a coma. Scary. One of the nurses had seen this happen before, and talked her through in a very interesting way.
Seeing as she wouldn't/couldn't respond. the nurse asked her to breathe out once for "no" and twice for "yes" when asked a question, that kind of thing. I hope you understand what I'm on about.
It just might work for you and your loved one.
Best,
Niek
mate as a gift is there ne thing that you no she wanted b4 the accident? cd maybe or shoes or sumint? if so try and get that cos then you no she gonna wake up and see you there with the last thing she can remember wanting! hope she does get better mate and good to see you standing by her! takes a proper man to do that and be there for her when she wakes up! hope all goes well! u should be proud of urself!!!!!!!!
I say make a collage of all her favourite things - photos of family/friends/pets etc, clipings about her favourite books/films/artists etc, cut off from her favourite clothing, that sort of thing. Not only is it very thoughtfull (girls love thoughtfull gifts ;) ) but you will have fun doing it and will make you feel good at this awfull time :thumb:
Thanks for all the suggestions folks.
I think il just keep it simple with a card and il treat her if/when she wakes.
Its recently kind of dawned on me that im not going to get my Rachael back as i know her. Of course i'l be there for her, but in a relationship sense, i think it wont be possible. I think that she will not be the Rachael i fell in love with.
Its been a hard few days.:(
Rach has now taken ill too. Shes been vomiting and generally in ill health. She looks and acts exhausted. Trying to yawn but doesnt have the strength. Her feed has been stopped too until shes better. I stayed for ten minutes tonight but had to leave. Was all a bit too much.
really sorry to hear that mate but try your best to keep positive mate for you and her time is a healer just got keep positive
mate you are probalies (SP) the most insperational person on here... my uncle had a really bad crash similar to your missus was in coma for 5 months and was really bad but all my family did was to be there for him and support him... i was only about four or five at the time so didnt really understand but reading your thread i can imagine what my families thoughts and feelings where...my other uncle died lat november committed suicide (off topic i know sorry) but what he did for my uncle who was injured was my uncle was really and still a massive newcastle united football fan and he went to there training ground when kevin keegan was first in charge and shearer was there and got them to record a message to him..... the first time it was played he woke up... so maybe try and get a song or album or the like that your missus was into before the accident to hopefully try and entice her out of the coma....
good luck mate will keep praying for you and your missus..
best wishes
Liam :)
mate, im gutted to hear this, but i pray that she pulls trough. she will be the same bud, you never know...
It seems as though she's trying to recover too quickly, she obviously wants to wake up but she's straining herself and tiring herself out.
As for her not being the same person, I cant see how this is the case mate, why would she be any different? Ok there may be some fear and emotional damage due the the accident and its possible that will effect her in day to day life, but not to effect her personality or all the things that ,ake her who she is.
I fear she will be brain damaged. To me, that is the worst case scenario, as she will suffer for the rest of her life. And also i dont know what i'd do. Would it be bad of me to end our relationship if she was brain damaged? Id still be there as a mate, but imagine that from her perspective. Itd be hell. Granted, the damage may not be very severe, but i suppose im preparing for the worst.Quote:
Originally Posted by Dod
If you care enough to visit her every day, you care enough to stay with her afterwards. :thumb:Quote:
Originally Posted by stan_the_man2k4
my friend was just in a simular suitation with a girl who he had just started going out with, had problems with her head and was brain damaged i think. he had to make the hard decision as well.
and i have mixed feelings about being there as a partner or friend, im not sure what i would do. but what i do know is you are doing very well atm and im sure you can do it for a long time to come as yet.
I have just seen this thread - only because I saw it from the homepage, as I dont usually go in Muppet....
I dont think this thread should be in here tbh, but then again I cant think where we could put it!
Mate, I am not even going to try and understand what you are going through, I experienced something similar when my girlfriend of 10 years went in for a major op (60/40 fatality rate) and I was in bits. When she came around and spoke it was the best feeling in the world...
Just keep thinking how good it will feel when she comes around and that will keep you going,
All the best dude.:)
If she is brain damaged, then its not the same Rachael that im going out with. And its Rachael that i love.Quote:
Originally Posted by Welsh Dan
Now this may sound sick or whatever, but i dont want to go out with someone who needs full time care. Picture it from my perspective.