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Originally Posted by Miss Stig
Tbh my aunt and uncle really were/are useless when it comes to discipline and gave up trying to sort him out before it was too late.
At least yours is still young enough to be brought back.
Excellent idea regarding the clothes above ^.
This is the one thing that has effect with him...he is money mad, so i have stopped going on at him about his disgusting room, oh and it is rank for a childs bedroom. I tell him that he can live in a sh!tpit all week, but come friday if he wants his pocket money i want it cleaned properly, and the floor vaccumed..... i only ask him to do 1 thing and that is it.Quote:
Originally Posted by bmw156
As i type he is currently throwing things around his room in protest, Sturge has since came in from work and removed his playstation for calling him a ginger faggot, and threatening to smack him in the face.... oh deep joy, another fun night in this house...
Thankyou for the advice...:thumb:
he actually gets more attention from his "other" grandparents ( the outlaws)
PROBLEM AREA.... Look into this and how to remove all contact/attention from them. Humiliate him in font of them with a blow by blow account of him and his behaviours of the week in front of him at the dinner table!
Also no mobile phone, Smash it to pieces. He'll get another on his birthday IF HE BEHAVES!
Take everything out his room and strip the Walls and lift the carpet then only put the bed back. That should bore him.
ketamine...
Done this.....i got a copy of his behaviour log from his previous school, and i posted it to them, they don't care, he is their first born grandchild and will always get whatever he wants out of them, this was a main factor in us moving 90 miles away, before hand they were less than half mile away and child used to go there when i told him off.Quote:
Originally Posted by brownbear
this is martin FYI.Quote:
Originally Posted by Miss Stig
you know the answers your self as you keep saying them lol,
"he is money mad"
well then dont give him his money. have a chart to keep track if he kicks off at all during the week/weekend.
possibly sit him down, say you want to treat him more mature, and you want to increase his pocket money (if funds allow) and if he meets he happyness/doesnt hit his sister/doesnt kick off everyday then reward him for it. :)
Start off at £5 every week and then reduce it by 50p everytime he's a twunt, he'll soon end up with nothing.
Sounds like a scrote and is exactly what puts me off having kids myself
Sounds like he is spending that fiver you give him on a Friday on a teenth of solids to me. Does funny things to a young brain.
Would explain the money mad thing, he's desperate to get some cash so he can go and have a smoke with his "gangsta" mates.
im only 18 and remember the days quite well. I was smacked etc and it made no diffrence, it just made me hate my parents more at the time and cause more havok sp? I stopped being a little sh.t one day when i was being a cnut in town and my mum went over to a police officer and he came over and basicaly told me of. Never again did i play up badly lol
Speak to a local police officer. Get him in there next time he's really bad for a blow by blow chat of factual accounts of how his life could end up, No money and dying of a heroin overdose in a pool of his own 5hit, piss and puke... My mum did that to me when I liberated her 3 week old golf for a joyride....
I was a nice lad growing up, never gave my mum or stepdad any sh1t. Honestly.
The worst thing my mum ever got riled about was catching me aged 20 with a draw full of herbal lol
Not very constructive...... :wtf:Quote:
Originally Posted by hendrix
Gave my tuppence on a previous page
exactly, when i was 12 having a fiver meant finding 3 other mates and chipping in for a score bag! i was money daft at that age, doing as many paper runs etc as i could as an extra fiver meant extra bevy/green.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hobbit
i used to be a right problem for my mum n dad, kicking up **** all the time at home, school, weekends etc but like brownbear after doing a good job of crashing my mums car reality struck me a bit and i smartened up. now i get on fine with my parents in general, only time we dont get on is when they say i spend to much time working instead of studying (more money means more toys) lol
i'm having alot of trouble with my 3 1/2 year old atm, im such at a loss as to what to do with him, he had me in tears today because i just dont know what to do!
i've been convinced since he was about 18 months old that hes got adhd or a mild form of autism, hes so hyperactive, doesnt listen, constantly winds me up and enjoys seeing me get mad, terrorises the cats, is abnormally destructive and more emotional than a pregnant woman - he cries when i ask him to get his clothes out, he cries when he cant see his teacher and silly stuff like that (even his teacher has picked up on this and they are considering calling in an educational psychologist and hes only in preschool!!) hes been potty trained for a year now and has only ever had 2 accidents but over the past few days hes sh!t himself at school (didnt even tell the teacher he wanted the toilet which he always does), he weed in macdonalds yesterday with my mum, when i got up yesterday morning i discovered he'd sh!t in the bathroom bin and today when we were in morrisons, he stood and p!ssed himself right in the middle of the aisle, then said 'i need a wee' and then pointed at the floor and said 'whats that?'
i just burst into tears, i dont have a clue what to do!
We do this now....only he loses £1 for swearing.Quote:
Originally Posted by hendrix
My sister has no kids and i'm 99% certain that it's because of him. lol
we got a phone call from the school today. my 8yr old had a fight on the football pitch then pushed a teacher. thats really out of character.
I meant spending cash on dope!Quote:
Originally Posted by hendrix
ohhhh I see.
Yeah I know now, don't do it any more. can't anyway cos of my job where I get random D&A.
I had just got back from Leeds fest tho lol
Thing is with ADHD they won't test/diagnose till after 6/7 years of age, they do what is called a connors scale, which is lots of questions where you answer on a scale of 1-5 is child blah blah, 1 being not and 5 being definately.Quote:
Originally Posted by claire6069
They send the questionnaire to school and one to the parent, the answers have to match before being considered to go onto a waiting list for diagnosis.
I agree with this. I currently work with 14-19 year olds who have been kicked out of school or won't attend. Majority of them are labeled with ADHD and to be fair that is all it is a label created by the goverment. At the end of the day 20 years ago they wouldn't have had a DISORDER they would have just been little ****s or the really bad ones autistic. One of our kids apparently has this and his parents quite openly claim £180 a week for him. :roll:Quote:
Originally Posted by General Baxter
A hand full of kids have respect but again sadly most don't and the fact you can't physicaly do anything about it and they know it just makes them worse.]
From experience the worst thing you can do is label a child with ADHD as they play on it and get worse (thats taken from day to day experience) "its my ADHD"
i didnt know there was all that rigmorol (sp) to it but i suppose its not an easy thing to diagnose. i had a little look on the internet this morning at child behavioural problems and there is something called CD - Conduct Disorder - in which the child does absolutely anything they can to be destructive or harmful to others, sounds just like Alfie (except his emotions of a girl), ste's option of a sore @rse wont work if its a behavioural thing though, just dont know what to do, fecking kids lolQuote:
Originally Posted by Miss Stig
Exactly...i know of someone who has 2 kids with it.......in order to get the DLA for them they have to be prescribed ritalin, so............she gets the script, flushes them down the loo and tells the kids " if anyone asks, you take your tablet every morning"... bearing in mind, my disabled daughter is about to lose her benefit cos the government have decided that she is not disabled any more, and her unreversable brain damage is not a problem...:eek:Quote:
Originally Posted by Dayle_
I remember being 12, oh it was only 6 years ago :roll: lol tbh not alot of things scare you at 12 because you think you have no responsiblitys and can do what you want when you want. When i was 12 me and my "crew" done lots of stupid things mainly because we just egg'd each other on. only thing that changes is that when you get older ie my age now the stupid things turn in to dangours things. We all thought we we invincible because nothing ever went wrong. Now after my friend dieing in a car crash last year every one is alot more sencible. Basiclly what im trying to say is unless he has some type of "scare" then imo he wont change.
that be done blabering on lol
no way?! thats awful!! and surely flushing the tablets down the loo but claiming the benefits is a type of benefit fraud?!Quote:
Originally Posted by Miss Stig
And there in a nutshell is everything that is wrong with this stinking country :thumb:Quote:
Originally Posted by Miss Stig
That is absolutely disgusting, i would report her.Quote:
Originally Posted by Miss Stig
I was registered partially sighted from birth with a rare eye condition and to be fair coped very well i try not let it get in the way, the only thing it never allowed me to do was drive which was a pain as i was brought up around cars and rallying and it was all i every wanted to do.
I now rally (co-drive) but i applied for the DLA to help me get around to and from work and I do struggle with things now and again especially after work when I’m tired and was denied it.
Ummm not sure what to say about this one because I'm not qualified to diagnose anyone but half the children I work with have ASD (Autistic Spectrum Disorder). It's such a complex disorder that there is no way I can explain it on here but this website might be usefulQuote:
Originally Posted by claire6069
http://www.autism.org.uk/en-gb/about...is-autism.aspx
Oh it is, she has 6 kids and 5 are at home 1 with a baby, she owns her house out right, has very expensive things inside, buys a brand new car every other year, has 3 big holidays a year......being Oz, USA, and a cruise, then she has lots and lots of weekends abroad on the p!ss....is 42 and never worked. she gets £1000's in benefits.
There will always be folk like this unfortunately..:(
thanks for that link bmw156, im looking at it now :thumb:
While checking this out, just be mindful of falling into the trap of looking for a 'tag' to explain the behaviour. A solution to a problem that doesn't exist if you will.Quote:
Originally Posted by claire6069
It's easy and often desirable to do this as it makes you feel better and gives you a focus. However the 'label' and your change of perspective (that of bad behaviour to a medical explanation) could be detrimental in the long run.
whenever i've thought he may have adhd, i've always aired my views to family or friends and been given the 'hes just a typical boy' comment but now his teacher is picking up on stuff too, especially his emotions and destructive behaviour, i'm starting to wonder if its more than just being a typical boy.Quote:
Originally Posted by phazer
the thing with him is, when hes at school, he will not leave his teachers side, he refuses to interact with the other kids unless he sees they've drawn something or built something out of blocks or lego in which case he goes and wrecks it and then goes back to his teacher. when she tells him to go and play with the others, he sits on his own in the corner!
nothing wrong with me,
when i was 10 i pulled the knob of the TV and ate it,
destoryed my grandma's tumble dryer
ate mud out the garden
tbh none of that shocks me:thumb:Quote:
Originally Posted by General Baxter
lmao totally agree!!!
yes but do that in todays world, id be put on so many pills, it would send me loopy
There may well be more to it I have no opinion either way as I'm not qualified, just a bit of friendly advice. Taking a step back and all that :thumb:Quote:
Originally Posted by claire6069
you already are baxter!!Quote:
Originally Posted by General Baxter