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Rach has now taken ill too. Shes been vomiting and generally in ill health. She looks and acts exhausted. Trying to yawn but doesnt have the strength. Her feed has been stopped too until shes better. I stayed for ten minutes tonight but had to leave. Was all a bit too much.
really sorry to hear that mate but try your best to keep positive mate for you and her time is a healer just got keep positive
mate you are probalies (SP) the most insperational person on here... my uncle had a really bad crash similar to your missus was in coma for 5 months and was really bad but all my family did was to be there for him and support him... i was only about four or five at the time so didnt really understand but reading your thread i can imagine what my families thoughts and feelings where...my other uncle died lat november committed suicide (off topic i know sorry) but what he did for my uncle who was injured was my uncle was really and still a massive newcastle united football fan and he went to there training ground when kevin keegan was first in charge and shearer was there and got them to record a message to him..... the first time it was played he woke up... so maybe try and get a song or album or the like that your missus was into before the accident to hopefully try and entice her out of the coma....
good luck mate will keep praying for you and your missus..
best wishes
Liam :)
mate, im gutted to hear this, but i pray that she pulls trough. she will be the same bud, you never know...
It seems as though she's trying to recover too quickly, she obviously wants to wake up but she's straining herself and tiring herself out.
As for her not being the same person, I cant see how this is the case mate, why would she be any different? Ok there may be some fear and emotional damage due the the accident and its possible that will effect her in day to day life, but not to effect her personality or all the things that ,ake her who she is.
I fear she will be brain damaged. To me, that is the worst case scenario, as she will suffer for the rest of her life. And also i dont know what i'd do. Would it be bad of me to end our relationship if she was brain damaged? Id still be there as a mate, but imagine that from her perspective. Itd be hell. Granted, the damage may not be very severe, but i suppose im preparing for the worst.Quote:
Originally Posted by Dod
If you care enough to visit her every day, you care enough to stay with her afterwards. :thumb:Quote:
Originally Posted by stan_the_man2k4
my friend was just in a simular suitation with a girl who he had just started going out with, had problems with her head and was brain damaged i think. he had to make the hard decision as well.
and i have mixed feelings about being there as a partner or friend, im not sure what i would do. but what i do know is you are doing very well atm and im sure you can do it for a long time to come as yet.
I have just seen this thread - only because I saw it from the homepage, as I dont usually go in Muppet....
I dont think this thread should be in here tbh, but then again I cant think where we could put it!
Mate, I am not even going to try and understand what you are going through, I experienced something similar when my girlfriend of 10 years went in for a major op (60/40 fatality rate) and I was in bits. When she came around and spoke it was the best feeling in the world...
Just keep thinking how good it will feel when she comes around and that will keep you going,
All the best dude.:)
If she is brain damaged, then its not the same Rachael that im going out with. And its Rachael that i love.Quote:
Originally Posted by Welsh Dan
Now this may sound sick or whatever, but i dont want to go out with someone who needs full time care. Picture it from my perspective.