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Ok, he has a playstation, which he loses for his cheek and attitude, he has 2 bikes, 1 mountain bike 1 bmx well over £500 worth which he loses too, when he is grounded he just won't come home from school, or he sneaks out of windows or waits till a door is opened for the dog or cat to come in or out.
They both get £5 pocket money which is paid for a couple of allocated jobs, and the chance to earn extra for doing extra jobs, he point blank refuses to help out with anything, will kick off if i don't instantly put money in his hand on fridays.
Sturge has tried allsorts with him, helping with the cars, taken him karting for good behaviour, and took him on mountain bike trails etc.
I told him tonight to go to his room for the language earlier, and i was told to "shut it".....he has since been back down to batter his sister, i chased him back up to be called " a selfish cow"!!!!
make him look at that pic for a few hours, he'll never be rude again lol
i say send Baxter round
Ive seen you say you have a disabled daughter,do you think he may be jealous of the attention she needs/has???Quote:
Originally Posted by Miss Stig
And this is all attention seeking maybe???
if i did that, the bmx went for sale, the playstation etc.Quote:
Originally Posted by Miss Stig
1. log off png
2. get cable ties
3. tie him up till hes on the verge of mental insanity/death
4. sit back and relax as he once again appreciates you and life
lol
re the grounding... simply make arrangements for him to be collected from school by you.. that will embarass him greatly....
there is the possibility that he is getting bullied himself, and is coming home & taking it out of you..
what outside activities does he do?? if none, maybe he needs to find some..
get him to join the young farmers...............lol lol
another thing maybe his mates? are they a bunch of scrotes? or maybe he needs storys to talk about and make him look big, say his mate said he did something at home the night before, he thinks he may need to better it?
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Originally Posted by Ernie
i thought this also,as ive done the sameQuote:
Originally Posted by mowgli
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Originally Posted by Derick-Sport
i laughed at the end sorta takes the edge of what i was saying but im deadly serious
TBH...i used to think that, but no, he actually gets more attention from his "other" grandparents ( the outlaws) i have always treated them both equally and always will, Emily is physically disabled not mentally, and at 10 yrs old is a little gobby madam when she wants to be.Quote:
Originally Posted by Andy
In fact now that i think about it, he gets a bit more that her on a daily basis, he is just so ungrateful.
vote Baxter for a road trip.
It stopped the last little fcuker.
Tell him next time he's naughty that you'll send big "leroy" round to make him into a man;)
Then when he bad mouths you again arrange for a big black man to knock on the door and ask for your son.when your son answers the door get the black guy to follow him in and blow kisses etc at him!then just threaten your son with another visit from "leroy".......he will soon shut up and behave when he knows he could potentially get bum raped by a big black cock!
Well that's what I'd do if I was a parent.....lol
Its evident in this thread who has kids and who is still kids theirselves lol
:thumb: that was my problemQuote:
Originally Posted by mowgli
Ok, No he is not getting bullied, i thought this also at his last school before we moved house in sept.
He seriously thinks he is 18, when he grows up he wants to be a chav/MC, dresses the part too, He listens to that crap that makes your ears bleed, and he thinks he can tell me n Sturge how to drive properly, i just know he is going to either kill himself or someone if he ever gets his licence.
He only like to hang around with scroats, the kind that have field bikes and hoon around on fields or along the beach path.
I would love to send him to a juvenile/borstal type centre to have the **** kicked out of him before he ends up a hopeless case.
if he like field bikes get him one and get him in to proper moto x racing it will take his mined of the scroats and he will have some think to look forward to every week end and hopefully vent his anger out on thrashing the bike on track. when ever i used to get peed of i wood walk my bike to the farmer that let me triane on his track. came home and had more respect because my rents were letting me do what i loved and i took my mined off the pricks at school and made me fell better than themQuote:
Originally Posted by Miss Stig
you have just answered it... he's the new kid.... he doesn't feel like he fits in, and is trying to act all cool...
simply ignore him. don't start any conversations with him, stop washing his clothes unless they are presented in the laundry basket, he will soon change his ideas. don't call him to the dinner table, let him make his own way there.
i knew a bloke who had foster kids.. he rewired each bedroom so he could turn the electricity feed off from his room, which he locked.... he used to get them straightened out pretty quickly.
Sounds like hes trying to impress the undesirables who are probably into nicking motorbikes,smoking bush and mc'ing to uprising/dizstruxshon etc
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Originally Posted by Andy
You know that sounds like someone who used to live round here funnily enough lol
We looked into this and do not know of anywhere he can take a bike, i would love for him to do this, i miss my bikes and even i'd like the excuse to get back on another little 2 stroke put put..lolQuote:
Originally Posted by Danny s-p
Mowgli.....he's been like this for 2 years hun, he has actually been slightly better behaved( hard to believe i know) since we moved here 4 months ago. Oh and the arguments about laundry and mealtimes are horrendous...:(
no comment.Quote:
Originally Posted by Spudly
is there no off road centres or green lane clubs near by
problem is, i really doubt he will appreciate itQuote:
Originally Posted by Danny s-p
Well our research only went as far as the local police station, only to prove boy child wrong about where his pals recon they can churn up the grass.Quote:
Originally Posted by Danny s-p
We live in the lakes so you would think there is somewhere over here for biking, there is any amount of outdoor sports centres for the usual, canoeing and water based sports.
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He probably wouldn't, he does not like taking orders and he would just think he can just hoon about chav styleeeeeeee.......he recons he knows everything so you cannot teach him anything.Quote:
Originally Posted by General Baxter
i remeber being 12, if i was bad or a little cnut a got sent to my room without anything, a whole weekend stuck in my room made me changen hated every second, also got the odd slap and tbh never done me any harm.
sit him down and talk to him, explain how much you love him and that you dont want him to go down the wrong road and end up dead or in prison, sounds to me like he's alot more grown up than you give him credit for. if thats the case treat him like an adult, talk about respect etc. and if you dont get any respect from him then he wont get it back. i dont beleive in kids just being naughty, or it being in there genetic make up. something went wrong somewhere along the line, look back and try to think where the change was and why? as a complete and utter arsehole of a child myself i know i just wanted to be loved from my dad, he loved me alright, but never supported me or believed in me and showed me the love in a father son kind of way. so my payback to him was to be the worst child i possibly could be, always fighting with anyone who wanted it, bought my first car at 13 and drove around like i was the king. the root cause was that i wanted to be taken seriously and loved, not treated like a naughty little boy who should be seen and not heard. i would just say remember your his mum and not his mate tho, so dont give him the inch because he will take that mile. hope that made sense.
Perhaps you could email channel 4 and get super nanny round.............
(this is meant in jest!)
i was a complete and utter cnut to my mum when she and my dad got a divorce, always fighting with my brothers (i even pushed one of them into a fire) etc etc, but i grew out of it and now according to my mum im 'the perfect son' lol
i must say when i was young (probably below ten) my mum used to smack us with a slipper, after a while she couldnt hit us hard enough. then it was wait until your father comes home. and the slipper always hurt from him.
i agree with removing EVERY thing of pleasure from him, PC, xbox/ps3, tv, anything which he will enjoy.
also regulate how much money he has. dont just give him a fiver if he wants some sweets, do you think he buys sweets with it!
and also ground him. i knew if i was naughty in the house, and got grounded, i couldnt go out of the house and be naughty. it might also be some of the people he is socializing with that is making him a brat.
just make his life a living hell.
adht.imo:)
so 90% of kids ages 5 to 18 have this aswell, its all a load of bollox, oh my kids got a gob on him, he must have adht, like ****,Quote:
Originally Posted by 16v Nova Kev
take away all the sugar, sweats and all the E numbers
eg me on cola lol
First things first, let's address his attire. I take it you're still buying his clothes? If so, stop buying him clothes that make him look like a chav and get him a dashing outfit from the likes of Barbour, like this fine young gentleman
http://www.lil-miss.com/wp-content/u...l-2520-org.gif
I'm sure the merits of the wax jacket's weatherproof properties would be lost on his 'crew' and he'll be outcast.
Seriously though, my brother's and I were all given the same up-bringing, except my elder brother and I went to a private school and my little brother refused and went to a state school. The youngest was a **** and my older brother and I were angels :thumb:I think the company that you keep at that age has a serious effect on the individual. My younger brother is fine now, but back then he was unbearable.
Definitely take everything off him and let him have it for a few hours etc for good behaviour. I don't think slapping the smile off his face is the way to go at his age either, as it's just conditioning him to take a slap, and may lead to much more fighting at home and outside / school.
Best of luck to you though, my cousin was exactly the same from the age of about 5. 13 years later and he doesn't have a job and still behaves the same. He got beat senseless for being a c0ck by his father and now there is nothing to frighten him as he has taken the worst of what his parents can give.
Also explain to him that Rapping isn't all about crotch grabbing and swearing. Take Mr B for example
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6t28COxEp2k
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xT2iP5Si-Ho
This is what i'm afraid of, he has no interest in school, and i really believe he'll end up in trouble.Quote:
Originally Posted by steviegsi
Hello It's Kelbelle on Martin's account.
I work in a school for children with learning disabilities and behavioural problems.
Smacking doesn't work, all it does is teach the child that violence is how you resolve a situation.
I know it's the hardest thing in the world and by this point will be difficult to do but the number one rule is to NEVER let him see that he has made you cross. Change your tone of voice to show him what he is doing is wrong but don't shout because he is looking for a reaction from you and you shouting at him achieves that.
You say that taking things away from him and not giving him his pocket money makes him kick off. Well unfortunately you need to fight the battle to win the war.
We use a choice system at our school that seems to work and gives the child the perception of control over their situation.
Example: I ask a child to come and do some work with me and they refuse. I tell them they have two choices. They can either come and do the work with me and then choose a fun activity as a reward OR they can go and sit in time out for 5 minutes and then do the work with me anyway. If needs be, I give them a one minute timer to decide and if they don't choose I choose the negative choice for them
So...
If you want him to do a chore, say washing up, and he refuses you give him two choices. He can do the washing up and you'll give him his pocket money or he can refuse and not have his pocket money. AND FOLLOW THROUGH. If he doesn't do the washing up, he doesn't get his pocket money even if he smashes the whole house up in a tantrum.