12 yr old boys.....advice please.

Oh it is, she has 6 kids and 5 are at home 1 with a baby, she owns her house out right, has very expensive things inside, buys a brand new car every other year, has 3 big holidays a year......being Oz, USA, and a cruise, then she has lots and lots of weekends abroad on the p!ss....is 42 and never worked. she gets £1000's in benefits.

There will always be folk like this unfortunately..:(

thanks for that link bmw156, im looking at it now :thumb:

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Originally Posted by claire6069

thanks for that link bmw156, im looking at it now :thumb:

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While checking this out, just be mindful of falling into the trap of looking for a 'tag' to explain the behaviour. A solution to a problem that doesn't exist if you will.

It's easy and often desirable to do this as it makes you feel better and gives you a focus. However the 'label' and your change of perspective (that of bad behaviour to a medical explanation) could be detrimental in the long run.

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Originally Posted by phazer

While checking this out, just be mindful of falling into the trap of looking for a 'tag' to explain the behaviour. A solution to a problem that doesn't exist if you will.

It's easy and often desirable to do this as it makes you feel better and gives you a focus. However the 'label' and your change of perspective (that of bad behaviour to a medical explanation) could be detrimental in the long run.

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whenever i've thought he may have adhd, i've always aired my views to family or friends and been given the 'hes just a typical boy' comment but now his teacher is picking up on stuff too, especially his emotions and destructive behaviour, i'm starting to wonder if its more than just being a typical boy.

the thing with him is, when hes at school, he will not leave his teachers side, he refuses to interact with the other kids unless he sees they've drawn something or built something out of blocks or lego in which case he goes and wrecks it and then goes back to his teacher. when she tells him to go and play with the others, he sits on his own in the corner!

nothing wrong with me,

when i was 10 i pulled the knob of the TV and ate it,
destoryed my grandma's tumble dryer
ate mud out the garden

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Originally Posted by General Baxter

nothing wrong with me,

when i was 10 i pulled the knob of the TV and ate it,
destoryed my grandma's tumble dryer
ate mud out the garden

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tbh none of that shocks me:thumb:

lmao totally agree!!!

yes but do that in todays world, id be put on so many pills, it would send me loopy

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Originally Posted by claire6069

whenever i've thought he may have adhd, i've always aired my views to family or friends and been given the 'hes just a typical boy' comment but now his teacher is picking up on stuff too, especially his emotions and destructive behaviour, i'm starting to wonder if its more than just being a typical boy.

the thing with him is, when hes at school, he will not leave his teachers side, he refuses to interact with the other kids unless he sees they've drawn something or built something out of blocks or lego in which case he goes and wrecks it and then goes back to his teacher. when she tells him to go and play with the others, he sits on his own in the corner!

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There may well be more to it I have no opinion either way as I'm not qualified, just a bit of friendly advice. Taking a step back and all that :thumb:

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Originally Posted by General Baxter

yes but do that in todays world, id be put on so many pills, it would send me loopy

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you already are baxter!!