12 yr old boys.....advice please.

ohhhh I see.
Yeah I know now, don't do it any more. can't anyway cos of my job where I get random D&A.
I had just got back from Leeds fest tho lol

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Originally Posted by claire6069

i'm having alot of trouble with my 3 1/2 year old atm, im such at a loss as to what to do with him, he had me in tears today because i just dont know what to do!

i've been convinced since he was about 18 months old that hes got adhd or a mild form of autism, hes so hyperactive, doesnt listen, constantly winds me up and enjoys seeing me get mad, terrorises the cats, is abnormally destructive and more emotional than a pregnant woman - he cries when i ask him to get his clothes out, he cries when he cant see his teacher and silly stuff like that (even his teacher has picked up on this and they are considering calling in an educational psychologist and hes only in preschool!!) hes been potty trained for a year now and has only ever had 2 accidents but over the past few days hes sh!t himself at school (didnt even tell the teacher he wanted the toilet which he always does), he weed in macdonalds yesterday with my mum, when i got up yesterday morning i discovered he'd sh!t in the bathroom bin and today when we were in morrisons, he stood and p!ssed himself right in the middle of the aisle, then said 'i need a wee' and then pointed at the floor and said 'whats that?'
i just burst into tears, i dont have a clue what to do!

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Thing is with ADHD they won't test/diagnose till after 6/7 years of age, they do what is called a connors scale, which is lots of questions where you answer on a scale of 1-5 is child blah blah, 1 being not and 5 being definately.
They send the questionnaire to school and one to the parent, the answers have to match before being considered to go onto a waiting list for diagnosis.

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Originally Posted by General Baxter

so 90% of kids ages 5 to 18 have this aswell, its all a load of bollox, oh my kids got a gob on him, he must have adht, like ****,

take away all the sugar, sweats and all the E numbers
eg me on cola lol

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I agree with this. I currently work with 14-19 year olds who have been kicked out of school or won't attend. Majority of them are labeled with ADHD and to be fair that is all it is a label created by the goverment. At the end of the day 20 years ago they wouldn't have had a DISORDER they would have just been little ****s or the really bad ones autistic. One of our kids apparently has this and his parents quite openly claim £180 a week for him. :roll:

A hand full of kids have respect but again sadly most don't and the fact you can't physicaly do anything about it and they know it just makes them worse.]

From experience the worst thing you can do is label a child with ADHD as they play on it and get worse (thats taken from day to day experience) "its my ADHD"

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Originally Posted by Miss Stig

Thing is with ADHD they won't test/diagnose till after 6/7 years of age, they do what is called a connors scale, which is lots of questions where you answer on a scale of 1-5 is child blah blah, 1 being not and 5 being definately.
They send the questionnaire to school and one to the parent, the answers have to match before being considered to go onto a waiting list for diagnosis.

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i didnt know there was all that rigmorol (sp) to it but i suppose its not an easy thing to diagnose. i had a little look on the internet this morning at child behavioural problems and there is something called CD - Conduct Disorder - in which the child does absolutely anything they can to be destructive or harmful to others, sounds just like Alfie (except his emotions of a girl), ste's option of a sore @rse wont work if its a behavioural thing though, just dont know what to do, fecking kids lol

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Originally Posted by Dayle_

I agree with this. I currently work with 14-19 year olds who have been kicked out of school or won't attend. Majority of them are labeled with ADHD and to be fair that is all it is a label created by the goverment. At the end of the day 20 years ago they wouldn't have had a DISORDER they would have just been little ****s. One of our kids apparently has this and his parents quite openly claim £180 a week for him. :roll:

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Exactly...i know of someone who has 2 kids with it.......in order to get the DLA for them they have to be prescribed ritalin, so............she gets the script, flushes them down the loo and tells the kids " if anyone asks, you take your tablet every morning"... bearing in mind, my disabled daughter is about to lose her benefit cos the government have decided that she is not disabled any more, and her unreversable brain damage is not a problem...:eek:

I remember being 12, oh it was only 6 years ago :roll: lol tbh not alot of things scare you at 12 because you think you have no responsiblitys and can do what you want when you want. When i was 12 me and my "crew" done lots of stupid things mainly because we just egg'd each other on. only thing that changes is that when you get older ie my age now the stupid things turn in to dangours things. We all thought we we invincible because nothing ever went wrong. Now after my friend dieing in a car crash last year every one is alot more sencible. Basiclly what im trying to say is unless he has some type of "scare" then imo he wont change.

that be done blabering on lol

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Exactly...i know of someone who has 2 kids with it.......in order to get the DLA for them they have to be prescribed ritalin, so............she gets the script, flushes them down the loo and tells the kids " if anyone asks, you take your tablet every morning"... bearing in mind, my disabled daughter is about to lose her benefit cos the government have decided that she is not disabled any more, and her unreversable brain damage is not a problem...:eek:

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no way?! thats awful!! and surely flushing the tablets down the loo but claiming the benefits is a type of benefit fraud?!

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Originally Posted by Miss Stig

Exactly...i know of someone who has 2 kids with it.......in order to get the DLA for them they have to be prescribed ritalin, so............she gets the script, flushes them down the loo and tells the kids " if anyone asks, you take your tablet every morning"... bearing in mind, my disabled daughter is about to lose her benefit cos the government have decided that she is not disabled any more, and her unreversable brain damage is not a problem...:eek:

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And there in a nutshell is everything that is wrong with this stinking country :thumb:

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Originally Posted by Miss Stig

Exactly...i know of someone who has 2 kids with it.......in order to get the DLA for them they have to be prescribed ritalin, so............she gets the script, flushes them down the loo and tells the kids " if anyone asks, you take your tablet every morning"... bearing in mind, my disabled daughter is about to lose her benefit cos the government have decided that she is not disabled any more, and her unreversable brain damage is not a problem...:eek:

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That is absolutely disgusting, i would report her.

I was registered partially sighted from birth with a rare eye condition and to be fair coped very well i try not let it get in the way, the only thing it never allowed me to do was drive which was a pain as i was brought up around cars and rallying and it was all i every wanted to do.

I now rally (co-drive) but i applied for the DLA to help me get around to and from work and I do struggle with things now and again especially after work when I’m tired and was denied it.

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Originally Posted by claire6069

i'm having alot of trouble with my 3 1/2 year old atm, im such at a loss as to what to do with him, he had me in tears today because i just dont know what to do!

i've been convinced since he was about 18 months old that hes got adhd or a mild form of autism, hes so hyperactive, doesnt listen, constantly winds me up and enjoys seeing me get mad, terrorises the cats, is abnormally destructive and more emotional than a pregnant woman - he cries when i ask him to get his clothes out, he cries when he cant see his teacher and silly stuff like that (even his teacher has picked up on this and they are considering calling in an educational psychologist and hes only in preschool!!) hes been potty trained for a year now and has only ever had 2 accidents but over the past few days hes sh!t himself at school (didnt even tell the teacher he wanted the toilet which he always does), he weed in macdonalds yesterday with my mum, when i got up yesterday morning i discovered he'd sh!t in the bathroom bin and today when we were in morrisons, he stood and p!ssed himself right in the middle of the aisle, then said 'i need a wee' and then pointed at the floor and said 'whats that?'
i just burst into tears, i dont have a clue what to do!

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Ummm not sure what to say about this one because I'm not qualified to diagnose anyone but half the children I work with have ASD (Autistic Spectrum Disorder). It's such a complex disorder that there is no way I can explain it on here but this website might be useful
http://www.autism.org.uk/en-gb/about...is-autism.aspx