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    Default My Mrs in a coma after car crash

    I made a wee post about this in another thread but a few people wanted me to keep you updated so heres the full shpeel.

    My girlfriend was involved in a head on with a Vaux Movano and her Saxo over two months ago. She was trapped in the car for nearly and hour and was unconscious but breathing.

    She was heading from my house to hers when the accident happened. Still unknown what happened. All we know is she wasnt on her phone and her car was mechanically ok.

    The extent of her injuries were - both feet broken, both thigh bones broken, pelvis broken, right humerous (upper arm) broken, elbow broken, both lungs collapsed, ruptured spleen and an extent of brain damage which we do not know. Her brain was heavily swollen to a very dangerous level.

    She had her spleen removed the night of the accident and was put onto life support with a ventilator. She was induced into the coma when she went in but was unconscious prior to this.

    Two days after the crash she was moved form Dumfries & Galloway Royal Infirmary (Dumfries) to Edinburgh Western General as she would not wake from her coma.

    There she stayed for around 2 weeks until they moved her the Infirmary in Edinburgh, as it has a better orthopaedic (bones) department where her legs and arm where pinned and plated and put into casts. She now has metal bar running down the full length of her thigh bones internally.

    Back to the Western where she has stayed up until now where she was kept in Intensive Care.

    She started to breathe on her own after a period where they 'weened' her off the ventilator.

    She was then moved one step down the ladder to High Dependency (same as Intensive Care, but less 'intense') where she is now fed directly through her stomach wall by a drip, and her ventilator still remains to enter in the front of her neck (tracheostomy) to keep her airways open.

    She does react to pain (heart and respiratory rates go up). Her pupils wouldnt dilate but recently one has slightly. This is due to her brain being swollen, but we hope this will progress.

    She also yawns alot which is a wierd sight! She flexes her left hand and arm and on the odd occasion, she opens her eyes for a while, the closes them.

    There is a fair bit of movement but slowly getting better.

    Her GCS (Glasgow coma scale - measurement of how severe someones state of coma is lowest being 3, highest being 15) is usually at a 7-8ish. When she came into the hospital she was a flat 3, unresponsive and needing breathing aid.

    She is stable at the moment and seems to be very gradually improving week by week.

    She was due to come back down to Dumfries today but there were no beds available.

    Not having a car makes going up to see her VERY difficult for me, but i phone at least twice a day and see how shes getting on. Hopefully she'l be down here again soon so i can see her more regularly.

    I suppose thats it really. Shes been in a coma for 2 months and 6 days.

    EDIT: If anyone has any question, feel free.

    Drive safe people.
    Last edited by Stanley; 13-11-08 at 09:13 PM.

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    oh my not quite sure what to say to that apart from we all wish her the very best recovery anyone could hope for.

    i hope you're keeping strong for her, as it sounds like thats what she needs.

    thanks for keeping us informed

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    damn.. wishing you and youre misses the best.

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    With regards me, ive been VERY low at times (as im sure you can imagine)

    Been to the docs as i wasnt sleeping right etc and he pointed me in the direction of a counsellor, which is ok. Doesnt really do anything for me but doesnt do any harm.

    I find smashing things up helps (in a safe environment of course).

    Im going to the docs again for anxiety suppression help as im jittery and stutter alot due to exxcess adrenaline in my system. I was told this is due to my brain thinking that im in danger (im constantly in fear of phoning the hospital and getting bad news, so my body thinks im in danger so gives me extra adrenaline incase im chased my a lion in ye olde days)

    Contemplated suicide on numerous occasions too. I know its selfish and THE wrong thing to do, but its a way out of the pain, stress and heartache.

    Were both 21 in case you were wondering.

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    Sorry to hear about that mate.
    Hopefully she gets better.

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    Here is a pic of her (on the left) i took the weekend before the accident.

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    your age shouldn't matter, but the fact you're both so young makes it even harder to contemplate with such situations in such an early part of life!

    just be there for her, i'm sure she knows your there, be strong!

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    Its a completely unbelieveable story from the outside.

    We went to school together and had a brief moment where we were going out etc (what id give to be 14 again!).

    We went our own ways after school (we both still liked each other but, A - Didnt tell each other, and B - We lived too far away anyway.

    She moved to Edinburgh a few years later with a bloke and i still REALLY liked her and always hoped there may possibly be a chance somewhere down the line.

    Her and her man split and she moved back home and we got in contact again. We met up a few times and i told her id always liked her since school to which she said the same!! I was totally taken back and happy as foook. We eventually started seeing each other. I was as happy as a pig in ****, and ironically the day of the crash i was sat there in her car thinking as she drove me home 'God lifes good right now. Ive finally got her' And i was on top of my game, especially as last year my ex had ****ed off with someone else, and id had a general bad run of nutjob women, so you can see why i was happy.

    1 Hour later, it was all changed......

    So this is why i CANT turn and leave. Ive wanted her for so long and to finally have her means so god damn much. Id give anything and everything to have her come out of this ok. All my worldly posessions, money and my word.

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    Life can be a right f**ker at times

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    I'm lost for words tbh.
    But definately don't give up, I know thats easy for me to say. Its times like this when a person's true character shows through and you sticking by her and showing support by phoning continuously is commendable stuff, I'm proud of you and I don't even know you!
    Wish her, you and all her family all the best wishes I can.

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